I've been doing it my whole life without even realizing it, until AP pointed it out. What does it mean? Well, you are defining yourself basis other people's opinions of you. Is it the right way to see yourself & define your self worth? I'm sure you know the answer to that.
It is a very dangerous way of being! These other people come with their own baggage, do not necessarily see the big picture and are not mature enough to make judgments about themselves, let alone other people. You have set your feelings & self worth up for a very bumpy roller-coaster ride by doing this. If someone praises you today then you feel elated & special but if tomorrow someone accuses you of being selfish or greedy your self worth is in the gutter.It's a very difficult place to be as you are not the one deciding the way you feel about yourself.
In order to grow as a human being and be the master of your feelings, this ownership of your self worth needs to be transferred back to you. You need to stop seeing yourself from other people's eyes and find your own eyes. I'm currently in the process of defining my center. It's a very challenging task and the progress is minuscule. I keep slipping back to what others are saying/thinking. But I'm trying not to focus on what other people say. I try to look at the objective truth myself and decide what it means about me.
There will be a day when I will be the only definer of who I am, what is my worth and how I feel everyday. Until then....
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