I go to a party. I meet:
- X, who is raving about his exotic travels.
- Y, who has lost oodles of weight and looks stunning.
- Z, who just got a kick-ass job and won't have space to store his millions soon.
- Ze, who recently quit corpo slavery & started his own design studio
What happens to me? All of you are super smart to figure out, I'm assuming :)
Comparison is a curse on humanity. It breeds inadequacy, envy and unhappiness.
I came across a funny and insightful study conducted by 3 psychologists at Cornell University. Olympic bronze medalists are happier with their positions compared to silver medalists. The bronze medalists tend to compare themselves with all the people who did not win a medal, whereas the silver medalists compared themselves to the gold medal winners & torture themselves thinking they could have won the gold.
The only way to deal with this curse is to love & appreciate yourself.
It's a 2 step approach:
- Stop focusing on how brilliant other people are and all the cool stuff they are doing. The world always looks rosy from a distance.Everyone has their struggles and shortcomings. Nobody, till date, has been perfect. Yes, people have strengths and we should appreciate them.But, it doesn't imply that you are inadequate and useless. You too have strengths, it's just that you have not acknowledged and accepted them as of now.
- Nurture and love your self. You are unique. Find your center and enjoy it. I'm working very hard to find mine and struggling. I will share it with you as soon as it takes shape.
" You are who you think you are, so think the best for yourself" ~Author Unknown
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